Scott Hanselman

Our Tenth Anniversary

October 25, '10 Comments [87] Posted in Musings
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My wife and I got married three times. The first time was ten years ago today. Here's a picture of us on our first date. We were married three months later.

Mo and Scott First Date

Wedding One

Mo and Scott WeddingIn a small public park in Delaware my wife and I were married. We showed up at the park to meet the judge. He said "where are your witnesses?"

"Witnesses? Um..." I had totally forgotten we needed witnesses.

"You're going to need two folks to sign your certificate and give their details."

"Ok, hang on." I ran over to the jogging path at the park and stopped the first two people that ran by.

"Hi, I know this is weird, but we're getting married and we need two witnesses. Do you have a minute?"

We got married right there under a big tree with a judge and two joggers. Afterwards we went to Friendly's for dinner. It was glorious and wonderful.

Wedding Two

Officially married on paper, we moved into together and started planning our White Wedding. Everyone was there.

We worked together in the design of the wedding. I searched the web for "Scottish Interracial Cake Topper" and we had a custom one made for the cake. It had tiny classes and a goatee as well as tiny African cloth in a design that matched Mo's hair wrap and bouquet.

We did the whole thing on the cheap, but it looked like a million bucks. Used dress, MP3s for DJs and burned CDs for party favors. To this day we both pride ourselves on making the old look like new.

A tiny asterisk said "Mo and Scott were married last year in a private civil ceremony." To this day I still get my anniversary dates confused.

Wedding Three

We went to Zimbabwe to settle lobola. One day while there I was padding into the bathroom to take a bath and when I opened the door I noticed there was a goat in the tub. I closed the door and reopened it just to check. Yep, goat. Not knowing exactly what was going on, I decided to go back to bed. A few hours later I came out, went to the tub and, no goat.

After a bath I joined the family for breakfast. They made a big deal about giving me some special meat for breakfast. It was the bathtub goat. Unfortunately I said no thanks, and ten years later this faux pas haunts me. Pro tip: Eat what's offered to you. Of course, this was just the first of a thousand cultural goats, I mean, goofs, and I'm sure there will be a thousand more.

It's been ten years, two boys, three houses, three jobs, three college degrees, dozens of trips, two filled passports, one new citizenship, and seven (voluntary) viewings of Love Actually.

Ten Years Later

Happy Tenth Anniversary, Small Wife.

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Scott Hanselman is a former professor, former Chief Architect in finance, now speaker, consultant, father, diabetic, and Microsoft employee. I am a failed stand-up comic, a cornrower, and a book author.

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Monday, October 25, 2010 6:25:14 AM UTC
Congrats to both of you. I am proud to call you my friends, and marvel all the time at how perfect you are for each other and for the kids.
Monday, October 25, 2010 6:31:32 AM UTC
Congrats!

Love Actually must be the ultimate film for lovers! <3
Monday, October 25, 2010 6:33:58 AM UTC
Thanks for sharing that, happy 10 years to you both, wishing you many more happy decades together :)
Monday, October 25, 2010 6:35:12 AM UTC
Congrats Mo & Scott!

Here's to many more Happy Years!
Monday, October 25, 2010 6:46:00 AM UTC
AAWWW!!! Happy tenth anniversary, Scott & Mo! Here's to decades more to come! *takes sip of Bailey's in your honor* :-D
Monday, October 25, 2010 6:58:06 AM UTC
That's awesome guys! Congratulations!!
Monday, October 25, 2010 7:15:43 AM UTC
Congrats to you and your family!
Monday, October 25, 2010 7:18:07 AM UTC
Congrats you two! Akumi and I did the whole civil ceremony thing followed by a more traditional wedding later. Our solution to the problem of forgetting which date was which was to only celebrate the official date since that's what would go on any paperwork we would need to fill out. ;)
Monday, October 25, 2010 7:22:53 AM UTC
Congrats to both of you! :)
Monday, October 25, 2010 7:52:20 AM UTC
Congratulations :)
Monday, October 25, 2010 8:18:32 AM UTC
I'm dying to know Scott: What happened to the witnesses? Ever heard from them again? Are they still jogging? :o)

Congrats!
Monday, October 25, 2010 8:33:19 AM UTC
Congrats to you and your familiy!
Monday, October 25, 2010 9:31:53 AM UTC
Congratulations Scott and Mo, happy anniversary :-).

Cheers,
Krishna
Monday, October 25, 2010 9:32:13 AM UTC
Congratulations to both of you! Wishing I'd be congratulating you for many such decades to come.
Monday, October 25, 2010 9:39:17 AM UTC
Excellent story line for a romantic comedy imo!
Monday, October 25, 2010 12:01:52 PM UTC
Congrats Scott :)
Monday, October 25, 2010 12:03:56 PM UTC
Congratulations to both of you...
Monday, October 25, 2010 1:13:13 PM UTC
Congratulations to both of you!!
Murali
Monday, October 25, 2010 1:45:49 PM UTC
Congratulations!!!!
Monday, October 25, 2010 2:38:36 PM UTC
Congratulations Scott!! To you and your lovely wife!!
William
Monday, October 25, 2010 2:52:04 PM UTC
Congratulations Mo and Scott. Great story.
Monday, October 25, 2010 2:52:57 PM UTC
Congratulations Mo and Scott. Great story. Keep on writing it.
Monday, October 25, 2010 3:27:33 PM UTC
10 years is a significant milestone, worthy of sincere congrats! Here's hoping you get a chance to celebrate in style!
Monday, October 25, 2010 3:31:17 PM UTC
Congratulations you two!
Steve Duitsman
Monday, October 25, 2010 4:07:45 PM UTC
Holy cow! Your kids are CUTE!
Monday, October 25, 2010 4:17:07 PM UTC
Congratulations to the nicest guy in Tech. Also, I love the Hanselminute(s?) where Mo interviews you. Here's to hoping you have a few empty episodes coming up where you need her to fill in again.
Monday, October 25, 2010 4:28:21 PM UTC
Beautiful family!! Congrats!
Monday, October 25, 2010 4:54:53 PM UTC
Congratulations! Heres to the next 10 and beyond!
Monday, October 25, 2010 5:09:25 PM UTC
Congrats on the anniversary man! Remember, you need to keep it fun :)
Monday, October 25, 2010 5:27:27 PM UTC
I'm still just geeking out over the earing :)
Monday, October 25, 2010 5:28:18 PM UTC
Mazel Tov!
Monday, October 25, 2010 5:32:04 PM UTC
शादी की सालगिरह पर बधाई हो!
Monday, October 25, 2010 5:32:05 PM UTC
Happy 10th anniversary!
Monday, October 25, 2010 5:32:17 PM UTC
Congratulations :)
Monday, October 25, 2010 5:47:03 PM UTC
Cangratulations! You have a beautiful family and make a handsome couple!
Monday, October 25, 2010 6:37:16 PM UTC
Congratulations! Happy 10th anniversary
Praba
Monday, October 25, 2010 6:38:21 PM UTC
Congratulations Mo and Scott! My wife and I will be celebrating 9 years of marriage in December.
Jason L
Monday, October 25, 2010 6:48:51 PM UTC
Scott, my sincere congratulations to you and your wife. This was, and is such a nice blog to read. And I have to agree with the other commenters, your kids are absolutely adorable. May you enjoy many more decades together. I love the part of the story about the joggers. I am curious, how did the two of you meet?

Again, Congratulations :)
Dustin
Monday, October 25, 2010 8:32:04 PM UTC
Congrats to you and your family! 10 years is quite an accomplishment!
Monday, October 25, 2010 8:35:02 PM UTC
Congratulation Scott and Mo, a very happy anniversary. Coming Jan it will ours 10th anniversaary too :)

Prashant Brall
Monday, October 25, 2010 8:52:04 PM UTC
Happy Anniversary on your 10th year, Congratulation Scott and Mo.
Lookman
Monday, October 25, 2010 10:44:02 PM UTC
Congratulations on a very successful 10 years! And best wishes for many, many more.
Tuesday, October 26, 2010 1:21:11 AM UTC
Super cool! Where/how did you guys meet?
Tuesday, October 26, 2010 1:59:44 AM UTC
Congratulations Scott
Tuesday, October 26, 2010 2:19:49 AM UTC
You rock--both halves! We're toasting you down in Mountain View.
Matt Hempey
Tuesday, October 26, 2010 2:39:38 AM UTC
congratulations ! There is nothing greater than family.
Tuesday, October 26, 2010 2:59:42 AM UTC
congrats! are you sure you weren't a member of new kids on the block?
Tuesday, October 26, 2010 3:09:08 AM UTC
Hey, congratulations! You have a beautiful family. Awesome post too. =)
christian
Tuesday, October 26, 2010 6:24:21 AM UTC
Congratulations Scott and Mo, happy anniversary :P
Tuesday, October 26, 2010 6:28:05 AM UTC
Congrats, you two. It always makes me happy to see two people making their lives fit together and putting in the effort to make it last.
Tuesday, October 26, 2010 8:13:08 AM UTC
So I know I'm late to the party, but I just wanted to say I'm a member of the three marriage club too. My first wedding was a civil wedding - traditionally, hindu people do this to celebrate their engagement. My parents were a bit freaked out when I told them on the phone that I was going to get technically married to this girl in Fiji that they had only met the one time.

The second and third times were in Fiji, about a year later and a week apart. We had a traditional white wedding (for her), and a traditional hindu wedding (for her family). The second one was the scary one - there is nothing like 600 guests looking at the "gorah" to keep you on edge.

Like you we always get our dates confused all the time. We just had our 7th aniversary of the civil ceremony (this is the one I always keep) and will be having our 6th anniversaries of our traditional weddings shortly.

As you know, being married three times means you are three times as happy, although my wife likes to joke she will never get married to me again. I always reply that this will be fine by me. Best wishes for your anniversary.
Gwyn
Tuesday, October 26, 2010 3:16:00 PM UTC
so that is 10 years with the goatee aswell... nice
aaorn
Tuesday, October 26, 2010 3:57:14 PM UTC
Congrats!

My wife and I got married twice.. basicly the same story except for Zimbabwe. Fun stuff! :)

Boogaloo
Tuesday, October 26, 2010 8:14:31 PM UTC
Merci de partager ceci : la dimension humaine
Etienne
Tuesday, October 26, 2010 8:57:00 PM UTC
"Here's a picture of us on our first date. We were married three months later."

HOLY COW, zerio to married in 3 months?!?! WOW! Green card, no rock=no nookie, or something else?
Taco Girl
Tuesday, October 26, 2010 11:08:01 PM UTC
Taco Girl - I'm a little offended by your comment. My wife already had her green card before we got married. We got married because *when you know you know.* I'm more surprised when folks are together for 2+ years and still haven't had a serious discussion about getting married. At some point one stops dating and starts interviewing spouses. We knew, so why wait?
Wednesday, October 27, 2010 2:44:19 AM UTC
Happy Anniversary. I was just stopping by to say I enjoyed your presentation at #bwe10, and that it was a pleasure to meet you. Many happy years to you and the Mrs.
Wednesday, October 27, 2010 3:18:30 AM UTC
I think it's funny that you call it your "white" wedding. My wife and I had a very similar experience, and we use the exact same terminology.
Wednesday, October 27, 2010 3:26:09 AM UTC
My sincere congratulations. And I love "Love Actually," too!
Wednesday, October 27, 2010 11:47:35 AM UTC
Congrats Scott...
Wednesday, October 27, 2010 3:47:30 PM UTC
Conventional wisdom says that the longer you "date" the more successful the marriage will be. However, in my anecdotal experience, the 10 couples I know who got married after knowing each other 3 months or less (one couple was married 1 week after they met) are still together an appear to me to be very very happy.

Of the 2 couples I know who waited 7 years to get even engaged (lived together for many of those years) one is divorced and the other seem quite unhappy with each other.

I'm not sure if I'm going to tell my kids these stories though. :)
Wednesday, October 27, 2010 6:30:04 PM UTC
Congrats Scott! My wife and I married after dating for 5 months, now here we are 13 years later. Its like you said, when you know, you know
Thursday, October 28, 2010 7:06:09 AM UTC
Congrats Scott!! Sweet family!! Im your fan!
Thursday, October 28, 2010 10:47:51 AM UTC
Congratulations Scott!!
Thursday, October 28, 2010 2:34:01 PM UTC
Congratulations Scott!
Thursday, October 28, 2010 7:16:20 PM UTC
Congratulations to the heppy family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Friday, October 29, 2010 7:47:33 PM UTC
Congratulations and god bless you to grow older together to cherish your life.......
pathik
Saturday, October 30, 2010 2:00:22 AM UTC
Congratulations Scott...

As an aside, I've enjoyed the couple podcasts that you've done with your wife. I've been married 15 years and it's amazing to find a good woman who groks the tech obsessive.
Sunday, October 31, 2010 6:16:55 PM UTC
Congratulations Scott!

Where in Delaware? That's where I'm originally from.
Sunday, October 31, 2010 6:58:05 PM UTC
Congrats and many more happy returns of many more subsequent decades.

And I am happy to see this post and the interesting story.

Seriously, though theoritically it is possible for a geek or blogger to have a family, it never occurred to me to put a technical person/blogger like you in a family album :-) Might be because I have read more and more of your posts and saw your presentations, code, etc. only on the technical side.

Congrats, again :-)
Sunday, October 31, 2010 9:17:25 PM UTC
That was so sweet and a little reminder of what is truly important in life.
Thanks for sharing and here's wishing you both very many years of happiness together.
-Stuart
Monday, November 01, 2010 1:35:42 AM UTC
Awesome story! I hope you continue to have a long and happy family life.
Hammad
Monday, November 01, 2010 10:36:50 PM UTC
Congratulations!!
Tuesday, November 02, 2010 4:33:36 AM UTC
Congratulations Scott. Great for your loved ones and you. Family first! ;-)
Gonzalo
Tuesday, November 02, 2010 4:37:03 AM UTC
Congrats man!

You guys make a wonderful couple (but you already new that).
Tuesday, November 02, 2010 8:12:26 AM UTC
Marvelous story. Congrats Scott, Happy Anniversary!
Nilhan
Tuesday, November 02, 2010 12:19:41 PM UTC
Wow man...congratulation on the 10th. Long live and prosperity :)

I was glad to read your story, and made me imagine myself how me and my wife will be after 10 years :)

Wish you a happy life always.
Tuesday, November 02, 2010 2:26:34 PM UTC
Congratulations! All your tales of the run up to a marriage to someone of a different ethnicity and country are all too familiar, I only married once however,. I'm married to a Jordanian Arab and have many similar tales to tell. One frighteningly familiar detail is the "Scottish" cake decoration, we had one like this as I threatened to turn up dressed in a kilt so "I'd be the person with the shortest skirt there" :-)
Tuesday, November 02, 2010 7:03:47 PM UTC
Scott, you have a beautiful family. It is wonderful to see how much you cherish them. Enjoy them and the life you have built. Congratulations on 10 years and I hope you have decades more.
Tuesday, November 02, 2010 7:37:41 PM UTC
Scott you don't seem to age at all, the picture of you 10 years ago looks like you yesterday... anyways, thank you for sharing your personal life with your readers. It is always better to know a little bit more about you than trying to create some artificial image of you while reading all you technical articles ;). All the best to you and your great family.
Joshua
Wednesday, November 03, 2010 1:48:19 AM UTC
I'm the goat - always thought techie = not romantic. My wife will thank you.... Well done.
Wednesday, November 03, 2010 2:32:45 PM UTC
Congratulations.
Wednesday, November 03, 2010 2:55:43 PM UTC
hey scott you have an extraordinary life :) happy anniversary.
Thursday, November 04, 2010 11:24:43 PM UTC
Scott, I wish I knew you in real life and could hear this story from you face to face. You seem like a great person who is married to a great person. Your story seems very special. Congrats to you and your wife!! Here's to another 10, and another 10, each better than the previous :-)
MatthewS
Wednesday, November 10, 2010 5:13:35 PM UTC
Felicidades Scott ustedes hacen una bonita pareja y tienen unos niños lindisimos. Espero que mi esposa y yo estemos tambien tanto tiempo como ustedes.

Saludos,

YovannyR
Sunday, November 14, 2010 5:18:56 PM UTC
CONGRATSS !!!!!!!!!!!!
Francckkk
Monday, November 22, 2010 3:40:36 AM UTC
Congrats, God bless you and your family. You're a wonderful husband to Mo.
Vad
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