Scott Hanselman

Cancer

January 22, '13 Comments [273] Posted in Musings
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What would your list look like on the day of your second cancer surgery?

Cancer. My wife has, or hopefully by now, had Cancer.

See that To Do List in the picture at the right there? That's how awesome my wife is. This is her list for the day of the surgery that would remove organs and important stuff and lay her up for many weeks.

Pack.
Cut toenails.
Paint toenails.
Clean bathrooms.

God forbid one should enter a major surgery with a messy bathroom or unkempt toenails. This is just how my wife rolls and I think she's awesome.

It's been a crazy several months since this Cancer was picked up by the lab during a routine check up. This was then followed by a PET scan, a surgical procedure and then another more major surgery.

School was starting soon for the kids, my wife is embarking on a new career and had classes all week. I needed to prep and attend the BUILD conference, be in the keynote, host 4 hours of live TV, plus deliver two talks. Just to make the point - life was happening when Cancer happened.

Let me tell you, Cancer is damned inconvenient when you're trying to live your life. It blindsided us completely but we continued to manage all our commitments while our little boys played and danced even though "mommy had a tummy-ache."

As of today there will be checkups every 3 months for some years. We think it's all handled and gone but now we wait. We wait five years, in fact, because that's when Cancer People graduate and get the "cancer-free" label.

I asked my wife when we could get her an "I beat Cancer" T-Shirt. She said that it's a little early. I may just buy a "She beat Cancer ->" shirt for myself and stand next to her.

Negative for Tumor - pathology

They took so much out of her it hurts me to think about it. Weeks later, dressed to the nines for the family Christmas party but with a hidden catheter bag on her leg, I've never been prouder of her strength and patience. Two months into various side effects while she is at a low point I am reminded she is only human, and as fragile as I. We're both a mess but we're together.

She's handling this whole thing with grace and aplomb and I'm so proud of her. If I could have taken it away and been the one that had Cancer (I always see the C as a Capital C when I say Cancer in my head) I would have.

The boys don't know anything about this, but perhaps 5 years from now we'll tell them that Mommy beat Cancer when they were younger. Even better if in 5 years medicine will find a way to keep Cancer from needing a Capital C.

Why am I telling you this, Dear Reader? Because we found this on a regular checkup. Please, get whatever regular screenings are appropriate for your age and gender. If you haven't been to the doctor in years, go today. These things are easier to beat when they are found early.

Let's hope that 2013 is an easier year.

UPDATE: A number of kind people have asked about funds and bills. We are fortunate to have insurance and will be able to pay our bills. If you want to help, please read Troy Howell's family's story and donate. He will die soon and they are raising money to cover the funeral costs and medical bills. http://www.troyhowellcancerfund.com

UPDATE #2: My wife and I have taken 6 months of our personal audio Cancer Diary and turned it into an episode of This Developer's Life. We hope you enjoy it.

About Scott

Scott Hanselman is a former professor, former Chief Architect in finance, now speaker, consultant, father, diabetic, and Microsoft employee. I am a failed stand-up comic, a cornrower, and a book author.

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Tuesday, January 22, 2013 7:55:00 AM UTC
I would like to wish your wife, you and your loved ones all the best in these hard times and hope your wife gets well soon.

Hang in there Scott.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 7:57:22 AM UTC
Long time listener, first time writer. Thanks for sharing these intimate moments. Life certainly does get in the way of the best laid of plans. Keep cheering her on and tell her how amazing she is every day.
Dan
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 7:58:03 AM UTC
Scott, I truly hope that your wife gets well soon. I can not imagine what you, and your family, have been going through!
Gary
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 7:59:40 AM UTC
Wow, congratulations to both of you for getting on with life through this difficult time and getting through it! Keep it up!
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:00:28 AM UTC
May your love for each other bring you both the strength you need to get through what must be a very difficult time. My thoughts and very best wishes are with you. Get well soon Mrs. H.
Russell Gilbert
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:01:18 AM UTC
Well said Scott. It's tougher than anyone can comprehend, both for you and for Mo. I know you will both be fine, but it sure takes a lot out of you.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:04:07 AM UTC
So sorry to hear that, Sir but happy that the treatment is going as expected.

3 years ago, they diagnosed my fiance and she needed several surgeries to remove the cysts that her body had developed over the years. Even if it turned out that those cysts were benign, it took so much out of her and us.

I would like to repeat what you said:

PLEASE, GET WHATEVER REGULAR SCREENINGS ARE APPROPRIATE FOR YOUR AGE AND GENDER. IF YOU HAVEN'T BEEN TO THE DOCTOR IN YEARS, GO TODAY. THESE THINGS ARE EASIER TO BEAT WHEN THEY ARE FOUND EARLY.
Tugberk
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:06:20 AM UTC
Scott, she will beat C.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:07:14 AM UTC
Fingers crossed.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:07:46 AM UTC
Frankly, it scares the hell out of me that Cancer happens to good people in the prime of their lives. It's just so damn unfair.

I'm happy to hear she's on her way to beat this thing for good; let her know I'm cheering for her.

I wish your family all the best.

PS: I just found myself a really good reason not to complain today.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:08:20 AM UTC
I have dear friends who have weathered the fight against Cancer. I'm sorry to hear your wonderful wife has been battling it to. I'm sure you are a great support for her.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:11:00 AM UTC
Scott, I hope that your wife continues to get better and feel good about herself. I am sure that Devs all over the world are proud of you for sharing this, and doing such a great job at home for and with your family.

Mo and Scott, you are both awesome.
Simon
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:17:48 AM UTC
All the best to you and your family!
Peter
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:19:10 AM UTC
My heart sank when I saw the tweet :-(. Having lost a number of close relatives to it I hate the disease.

I really wish Mo and You the strength to pull through this. From the post it looks like half the battle has been won, may Mo go on and win the war! We all know you will be her trusty lieutenant all the way through.

Not sure if it makes sense but as your fans and well wishers we are with you.

Wishing Mo best of health in 2013.

Warm Regards,
Sumit.
Sumit
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:27:04 AM UTC
never write to you just read from you
but now i have to tell you
I would like to wish all the best in these hard times and hope your wife gets well soon

and also to my love , she have cancer toooooooooooo :'(
salem
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:29:58 AM UTC
Scott, it’s so, so good to hear the surgeries were successful. Your family’s been in my thoughts and prayers for the past few months and will continue to be.
Go Mo!

And thanks for the very important reminder to get in for those routine checkups.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:34:06 AM UTC
Kia kaha guys

Been a long time follower and wish you all the best
Mike
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:34:41 AM UTC
As a graduate myslf I wish you and your wife the best. A lucky woman to have you, a lucky guy to have her.

Aloha,

Joe
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:36:11 AM UTC
As somebody who has had a minor brush with cancer I can completely emphasise with your situation.

For me this XKCD explains to people who haven't had to deal with cancer personally what it means to have had cancer and why you are in remission not 'cured'.

Hope the final verdict is that she's got a negative result and here's hoping all the checkups to come are negative as well
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:38:15 AM UTC
wishing you best of luck, both of you. your wife needs you more than ever, be with her every day. I really hope it will be OK in no time.

god bless you
dušan
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:38:28 AM UTC
Love heals everything. Remember that.

I'm wishing you all the best.

Let's all kick c in the butt in 2013!
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:41:21 AM UTC
Wishing your wife a speedy recovery and your family all the best. You are one of the most human and most informative blogger I follow.
Finnur Jonsson
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:41:23 AM UTC
Hi Scott and all - I just wanted to re-iterate Scotts request to have regular check-ups

My Leukaemia (CML) was spotted on a regular blood donation (some 6+ years ago), I hadn't felt particularly ill or anything, and being a bloke I probably would have waited till my spleen ruptured before considering to go and see the doctor.

As it was, a few days after my failed donation I was sat in the doctors being told I had Leukaemia and without treatment I had 1 year or so to live. Luckily with some light chemo and various medications I am still here, and lead a pretty normal life.

Scott I wish you and your wife all the best (from a fellow Microsoftie blogger), and I can appreciate that sometimes it is just as hard (if not harder) for the partner of a Cancer patient to deal with the whole C thing

Rob
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:41:29 AM UTC
Will keep you, Mo and the kids in my prayers.
Thanks for being such an inspiration.
Johan
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:42:33 AM UTC
Let's hope that 2013 is an easier year!
Kuznetsov Viktor
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:44:55 AM UTC
You two are real fighters! I'm sure she'll beat it. I wish her easy coping and speedy recovery.
Nikola Radosavljevic
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:53:54 AM UTC
All the best to you and your Wife. Let the Cancer stay in the past.
Alexander Taran
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:54:32 AM UTC
All the best thinking of you and your family. Keep fighting!
Daniel clegg
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:55:58 AM UTC
wishing Mo, you and family an awesome 2013, so sorry to hear about this ordeal
Sam
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:57:54 AM UTC
My thoughts are with you guys.

The Hanselminutes with Mo are some of my favourites, and I'm looking forward to your book.

Take care of each other. And I hope to God Scott that you don't feel guilty if you need to slow down your usual pace.
We'll wait.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:58:35 AM UTC
Congratulations and best wishes to you and your wife. Good you write about it, it helps others and in the same time should let you put off some of those heavy emotions.
Tobiasz
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 9:06:41 AM UTC
I truly hope and wish your wife pulls through, Scott and gets her old life back as much as possible and you both grow old and wise together. Wish you and your wife well!
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 9:07:22 AM UTC
I have been following your blog for a long time, and inspired by your fight against diabetes. Admire your bravery and now also your wife's. Hope in 2013 and the coming years everything becomes brighter for your family.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 9:08:28 AM UTC
I am sorry to hear about your wife, my thoughts are with you and and your family at this time. All the best and she will come out of this all the stronger.
Mark Coles
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 9:11:24 AM UTC
Dear Scott,

This blog post moved me deeply, and all my fingers are crossed for your wife and your entire Family!

I lost my uncle to Cancer just 3 months ago, and he was diagnosed with Cancer only 2 months before that. It has been so painful to watch him deteriorate so fast, and the effects of his illness on his family and friends was crushing. The experience has changed me, and I can only try to imagine the toll it must take, when Cancer strikes your significant other.

All my sympathy and respect to you and your wife, and I wish for you to have beaten the Cancer!

Kindest regards,

Mikkel
Mikkel Toudal Kristiansen
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 9:19:21 AM UTC
Wish you and your family all the strength in the world. My thoughts go out to you and your family.
ryan van der wal
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 9:21:39 AM UTC
Scott,

Thanks for all you've given to the technical community. I truly pray a full recovery over your wife (and you) and that there will be no trace of cancer left and that you and your wife have many decades of marriage and life ahead of you together.
Allen
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 9:36:08 AM UTC
Hey Scott

Another long-time reader. All the best to your wife and family chap.

Regards

Andrew Deacon
Andrew Deacon
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 9:42:07 AM UTC
Hi Scott, from listening to your podcast where Mo has guest starred I know that she is intelligent, beautiful and a formidable lady. And you are a lucky man. I know your family will prevail through this.

All the best,
Hardeep
Hardeep Virdee
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 9:45:36 AM UTC
Hi Scott,

touched by your sharing. The best thing about Cancer is it can teach you really quickly where life is at...your family and closest friends.

I wanted to briefly share a story of my own:

I noticed my TESTICLE was harder than normal and irregular shape. I was thinking, I'm sure it's normal, it will pass (mainly because I dreaded the thought of going to the doctors), but my wife persisted to see a doctor.

It doesn't get much more uncomfortable that having a doctor examine you down there. But after he did, he said it could be 'C' and I needed an ultrasound...then surgery and now my little friend is gone. Soon after, radio therapy and PET scan.

The PET scan showed all clear for testicular, but showed 'hot spots' around my throat, then had a biopsy which was indeterminate and I was told I might have another unrelated cancer in my throat. When I heard this, my wife and I hugged and cried together. She has been an amazing support.

The tumor in my throat was removed and was benign and I have been all clear for nearly two years.

Guys, don't be embarrassed to get something checked out! Doctors deal with this stuff all the time. I was lucky it was found early and didn't spread.
Phil
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 9:46:54 AM UTC
Scott
I really hope that you wife will get better
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 9:48:06 AM UTC
Hi Scott , long time reading your blog , but this is the first time i have need to comment. As someone who almost
lost a wife last year becase of complication after giving birt to our daughter I wish Your wife and Your family best of wishesa and a lot of strength to fight.

Best Regards
IM
Ivan Mladenović
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 9:50:16 AM UTC
Hi Scott,
I'm a frequent reader of your blog and a fan of your talks. I always enjoy the funny and thought provoking talks you deliver. Never guessed what you might be going through when you made us smile.

So, for all those smiles you brought to us, may your life be filled with joy, happiness and good health.

Keep it up.
Moiz
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:04:52 AM UTC
Hi Scott,

Your story about how 'life was happening while Cancer happened' reminded me of the very powerful story told by commedian Anthony Griffith on The Moth. I highly recommend listening to his story though it's very tough to get through - by the end you will be in tears or on the brink - atleast I were.

The story is available on youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qdBJ1X33rXM

My best wishes for your family and a swift and full recovery!

Best Regards

Simon Skov Boisen
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:05:12 AM UTC
Hi, Scott,

I almost feels guilty about enjoying so much the result of your work.

Thank you for being such a great example of living a double life as a person and a geek.

Bruno.
Bigsby
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:14:40 AM UTC
Hi Scott,
long time reader, enjoy your useful blog a lot. Sad to hear about the cancer; all the best - it's the modern plague, really, and bitter irony that the technologies we gather round in this blog and elsewhere amount to a hill of beans when it comes to this.
larsyde
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:17:09 AM UTC
My best wishes for your family
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:25:55 AM UTC
Thanks for sharing - please keep us updated.

Best wishes
Morten Friis
Morten Friis
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:35:07 AM UTC
May God bless you both. Wish Mo recovers fast and you get that T-shirt really soon.
Ajay Chani
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:45:46 AM UTC
Wish Mo! speedy recovery this year and you both get that T-shirt sooner.
Krunal Mevada
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:46:02 AM UTC
I'm so sorry to read this but I pray for you and your family to be like as before it and I know you would do great! I know how this is when you find this out because I unfortunately had this experience but "she beat cancer" and we all get you so many T-shirts!
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:50:11 AM UTC
Best of luck to all of you.
Phil Murray
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:58:34 AM UTC
I will keep you and your wife in my prayers Scott
Norman Headlam
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:59:43 AM UTC
Scott you always send knowledge all around the world and now its time to the world send to you and your family good vibes.
I hope that this episode of your life is in the end and in five years you come back to say that your wife has the cancer free label and wear the "I beat cancer" T-Shirt.

Best wishes,
Luiz
Luiz
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 11:22:49 AM UTC
Our prayers are with you, Scott.
RK
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 11:46:59 AM UTC
Scott,

Our thoughts and prayers are with you. We wish Mo a full and speedy recovery and may you have the strength and support you both need.

Laura
Laura
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 11:50:15 AM UTC
Such a beautiful post, may you all stay Cancer free and healthy in future. I cannot imagine how painful this all is for you all so can only hope you can all keep smiling.

All the best

Chris, Andrea & Henry
Christopher Beach
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 11:53:18 AM UTC
My dad died from cancer; sudden discovery at stage four and essentially an uphill battle of pain there on.

So yes, the earlier the detection, the better. I pray for your wife's road to recovery.
Aaron Seet
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 11:55:28 AM UTC
I got quit when I read your tweet.
Lost my father and sister because of cancer.

Wish Mo en You and your kids all the best in this difficult time and hope that Mo will recover soon and the cancer will stay away.

Wim
wim hoek
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 12:00:19 PM UTC
Hope everything goes well for your wife and your family - Good Luck
Pete Vickers
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 12:09:46 PM UTC
Like many others here, I have been a listener as well, posting for the first time.

I think you should buy a "She beat Cancer ->" T-Shirt for yourself and the kids as well.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I sincerely believe everything will be well. Go Mo!
Raghu
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 12:15:50 PM UTC
Holy crap, Scott!

I still remember running into you with all the family in LA during a PDC (2008, maybe?).

I wish you and your wife all the best and a speedy recovery.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 12:20:05 PM UTC
I'm sorry to hear this news. Mo sounds way too young and vibrant to have (had) this disease. Best wishes to her, to you, and the boys.
Elena
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 12:23:05 PM UTC
Scott,

I am saddened by the illness in your family but encouraged by the optimism in your writing. You and yours are in our prayers.

Tuesday, January 22, 2013 12:30:08 PM UTC
My best wishes are with your whole family. Let's see your TODO list for that day in five years, when you both can wear your t-shirts... :)
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 12:31:10 PM UTC
You may not remember but not very long ago we had a brief exchange on twitter regarding another xkcd comic on the topic of Cancer. It makes more sense now.

My story is more of "life continues to happen whilst Cancer happens". Both my mum & dad were diagnosed with terminal cancer a day apart. Deaf went quickly but mum held on through sheer stubbornness plus excellent treatment from the Peter Mac cancer centre here in Melbourne. For 13 months she lived with us during treatment, and spent less and less time at her own home. In the meantime we had 2 kids going to kinder and school, were trying for a third, my wife was running a small business and I tried to be present for everyone and keep a fulltime job.

It was hard, and almost pushed me over. It took a very good friend plus my loving wife to get me back into normal living mode again when it was finally over. That tool about 6 months hard work.

Don't underestimate the affect on yourself and the boys through this. You will hurt, the boys will know something is up.

I hope Mo continues to recover, and gets an "all clear" from the doctors until science gets to the point that it doesn't matter if someone gets cancer, rather than Cancer as we call it now.

Stuart
Stuart Roberts
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 12:50:50 PM UTC
I wish you and your family the best.

My wife died of cancer last year. A colonoscopy at 50 may have saved her. Or may not have.

One thing I noticed with her and the too many other people in my life that have cancer is how well they handle the disease. I do not know what it is but they rise to the occasion.

Fred
Fred Beiderbecke
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 12:59:56 PM UTC
Good luck for your family Scott.
Bilal Haidar
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 1:03:36 PM UTC
I wish nothing but the best for you both! My wife "had" (still on the waiting time like yours...) breast Cancer a couple of years ago and fortunately it was detected in a very early stage which made things less complicated but not easier like you probably know by now. Soon after she got the one year recover period we embarked in the adventure of having a baby and by now she is nearly "two years survived old". Her name means "bliss" in an African language and definitely that is what she brought to our lives and for those "probation" years.

Like in the Volcan old say: "Live long and prosper".
Rogerio Prudente
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 1:06:53 PM UTC
Hi Scott,

Long time listener/reader, first (or maybe second?) time poster.

Good luck to you and your wife. It's not an easy thing to get through, but it can be done.

I coincidentally just had a physical yesterday where the doctor did the prostate check (my 1st one). It wasn't a big deal in hindsight. I get the PSA (and other lab work) results back today. I don't anticipate any issues. However, I would reiterate your statement about getting regular check-ups. They're absolutely essential to early detection.

I worry in particular because my dad has Cancer (I like the capitalization; it's big enough that it deserves it) and I take after him in many ways. He made it past the 5 year mark after his surgery, but unfortunately it came back. He's now dealing with it in his early retirement years. It could be much worse for him. So far the meds are working very well. But it's definitely an "inconvenience" for him and my mom. It's a constant vigilance, unfortunately.

Once again, good luck to both of you. I wish you the best in beating Cancer into the ground where it belongs.

Scott
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 1:10:29 PM UTC
Thank you for sharing. Glad surgery was successful. Wish the best for you and your family. God Bless.
Rams
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 1:18:59 PM UTC
All the best, I hope the Cancer stays away.
Martin Eyles
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 1:23:07 PM UTC
I don't know what to write. Mo is awesome - I loved listening to her on Hanselminutes. And the strength of your relationship is enough to make anyone envious.

All the best to Mo, you, and your family, Scott.
Kent Boogaart
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 1:24:39 PM UTC
Few people create an impact on followers as you have done.

The difference is that you have been willing to involve your personal life and situations.

That, not only gives a follower a sense of what's going on in tech matters, but a greater feeling of integration and involvement.

You and your wife deserve the best. Push on always...

Carl.
Carl Mess
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 1:27:15 PM UTC
My thoughts are with you and your wife and your family. All the best to you guys.

TJ Gokcen
TJ Gokcen
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 1:33:06 PM UTC
Oh man. I'm so sorry to hear that. All the best.

Taki
Taki Stewart
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 1:37:16 PM UTC
Best wishes for a prompt and complete recovery followed by a long life of happiness.

And wishing you a wonderful birthday in this stressful time.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 1:40:19 PM UTC
Best wishes and good luck to you, your wife, and your family. Hopefully, 2013 will continue better for you.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 1:44:28 PM UTC
I can only echo all of the thoughts and blessings given here by my friends in the community. There are a lot of us out here Scott that have grown very attached to your presence. I've never met you, maybe never will, but reading this post gave me a punch in the stomach as much as if a close friend had delivered the news.

Best of luck to you all.
Martin
Martin Stickley
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 1:49:49 PM UTC
As 2013 continues on, I hope that things continue to improve for you guys. It sounds like she is setting a standard for people with Cancer to aspire to achieve. Best wishes to you and your family.
Greg Kurts
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 1:50:13 PM UTC
The positive attitude you both hold, will make a huge difference for recovery! Also C medicine has made tremendous leap forward these last years, I know for a fact. I wish you good luck and am already looking forward reading your 'We beat it' blog post.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 1:54:38 PM UTC
Hope you get well soon Mo.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Scott.


May everything goes back to normal very soon.

-Aysha

Aysha
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 1:59:13 PM UTC
I hope your family finds a healthier and less stressful 2013. Thank you for all you do!
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 2:12:34 PM UTC
Thank you for posting this, Scott. It's so very easy to get caught up in our daily lives and forget just how amazing it is to be alive!

As a developer, I've learned from you so many lessons. My computer boots to many different VHD's because you taught me that it was possible and led me by the hand through the process with very generous posts on the topic.

I work four days a week from home because you told me that was possible as well.

You deal with two young boys, type 1 diabetes and a very demanding schedule all while keeping what I think is a superior attitude and staying on top of what's happening in our constantly changing development community.

You've taught me much over the years, most of it not having anything to do with development and for that I thank you.

I've never met you or your wife in person but I'm willing to bet real money that she's every bit as awesome as you say she is. Give her my best and go ahead and buy that shirt :)
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 2:13:27 PM UTC
So sad to hear that...
All the best for your family.
kok hui
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 2:20:38 PM UTC
Best wishes to you, Mo and your kids. Like many, my family has had it's share of C and it is never easy. Your attitude makes all the difference.

Thanks for being a great example for others who are dealing with cancer.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 2:24:00 PM UTC
I wish you and your family the best, hope your wife gets better soon.
Thiago
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 2:26:08 PM UTC
Here's wishing your wife and family all the best.

This is one of the reasons why I love reading your blog, you seem very grounded in reality and the fact that your day job, though very important in shaping who you are, is not the sum total of who you are.

The battles you face, diabetes and now cancer, hit home. I am fortunate enough not to face these battles but those I love and care about are/have, and your words add encouragement. Your words about diabetes helped me to be knowledgeable enough to let my father know he was managing his all wrong and to cause him to require more of his doctor(s).

Thanks!
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 2:32:38 PM UTC
All the best for your family. This is very good that your wife had regular check ups and cancer was discovered earlier and was also treated earlier.

My Best wishes to your beautiful family sir



Tuesday, January 22, 2013 2:41:47 PM UTC
The first words that came to me were something I'm sure you wouldn't appreciate in your blog.

So I thought I'd try to write something helpful and articulate (like the other guys). But the only thing that comes to mind is a (rather long) list of unprintable words with "unfair" as a delimiter.

I am so sorry to hear you guys are dealing with this.

What can I say that's encouraging? They say having the right attitude about life is key to getting healthy. Well, from what I can tell from your blog, the two of you are better equipped to face challenges like this than most anyone I know.

Best of luck to your family, Scott.
bill
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 2:49:16 PM UTC
I've long enjoyed your writing Scott and have found much weird and wonderful things on the web thanks to you!

Thank you for sharing your experience, your account is touchingly frank. I wish you and your family all the very best in the times ahead.

Jess
Jess
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 2:56:41 PM UTC
Your wife sounds like a fighter. I wish your family all the best.

Ian
Ian
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 2:59:12 PM UTC
Congrats and good luck in the future!! Cancer sucks.
John
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 3:00:41 PM UTC
Its moments like these that put everything else in proper perspective. Unfortunately it takes these moments to tear us away from daily irrelevant events.

Not being negative, but step back and relax and do something relevant to your family, like a great vacation. Who cares about code, technology, architecture, ... life is to short take a break once in a while. If you dont do things now you might never get a chance.

Best of luck,
EthernetIP
EthernetIP
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 3:09:59 PM UTC
You're wife sounds a lot like my wife... from the pre-op checklist to the grace and aplomb she uses while slowing kicking cancer's ass each and every day.

I'm very sorry your family has been through this, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

My sincerest best wishes,
Jon
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 3:14:38 PM UTC
Best to your wife, having had kidney cancer on my transplanted kidney last year, cancer is an unwelcomed visitor. What strikes me now is that once you've had cancer, the doctors are always looking for more cancer...Annoying to have an MRI then have them say, let's do a chest x-ray because this kind of cancer spreads to the lungs... No rest, just vigilance.
Suzanna Litwin
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 3:15:51 PM UTC
Much luck to you and your family. It can be such a challenge as the caregiver (as our own husband-blogger Riding Shotgun has shared), but it sounds like you're doing a wonderful job. The t-shirt is a good idea.

Tuesday, January 22, 2013 3:16:08 PM UTC
Like many posting here, I am a long time reader of this blog, but a first time poster.

My best wishes to you and your wife. I know it's rough for both of you. My wife was diagnosed with breast cancer seven years ago, once again through routine screening. She is now seven years clear and we are both the biggest advocates of all routine screening. If it's offered to you, take it!

Best wishes,

Wayne
Wayne Rippin
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 3:21:08 PM UTC
Best of luck Scott, I will say a few prayers for you and your family.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 3:24:53 PM UTC
It's not often I find myself in the office with tears in my eyes but this post was, like another commenter said, a punch in the stomach.

Having lost my mother to cancer last year, I wish you, Mo and the kids all the best, and hope you can all continue to live life as normally as possible.

All the best.
Jon
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 3:25:32 PM UTC
I'm a Cancer survivor, which of course means I've lived at least 5 years since my last known occurrence. I was 25 the first time, 28 for my relapse, but I've been good since then (I'm coming up on 37).

Something to keep in mind is the "cure" is rough, and being young it will cause long term problems you may not expect. Beating "C" isn't just the Cancer but also the effects of Chemo and/or radiation. I'm looking at $30K in dental work because the combo destroyed my teeth. Oh and it's dental so there is very little (read: no) coverage by health insurance. They don't seem to care why it's a problem, just that it's dental. I firmly believe that those who think healthcare in the US is mostly fine haven't had to use it. Sorry, getting off topic...

It is absolutely 100% necessary to get check ups, no matter your age.

The hardest part about my treatment wasn't something I had done, it was something I saw. Another man, same age as me also named Mike, was getting Chemo as well. It was clear though the Cancer was found far to late for him to have much if any of a shot. I remember his lovely wife and daughter visiting him very clearly. I also remember the things no one would say, and the way everyone faked hope. And the conversation we had after he left, how angry he way and how all I could do was agree with him.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 3:29:39 PM UTC
I just want to add my best thoughts and wishes for your wife, you and your family. For whatever it's worth, you have a huge number of friends you've never met who are all pulling for you.

- Bob
Rhysling
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 3:31:16 PM UTC
As someone who lost their wife to cancer that was detected too late I am happy to hear that in your wife's case they caught it early and I wish her a healthy recovery.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 3:36:42 PM UTC
Hi Scott,
I promise my prayers for your wife and your family.She will definitely beat cancer.
Sobin
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 3:45:09 PM UTC
All the best and thanks for putting it out in the public for us. Warm wishes to your wife.

is it appropriate to ask which routing checkup is it that have found it?
hernan
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 3:51:25 PM UTC
All the best to you and Mo and the kiddos Scott. Fist bump, hang in there.
Matt
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 4:07:21 PM UTC
I have learnt a lot from your blog posts, technical & ethical stuff, and they have changed my life in a better way! and this will too!! This post tells me how to be wonderful at the difficult times and the importance of regular checkup.

May God bless you and your family! You'll be in my prayers!!
Gokul
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 4:08:48 PM UTC
I look forward to the day when your kids realize just how awesome their parents are. Best wishes to you and yours Scott. It was a pleasure meeting you at build.
Chris Kirby
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 4:09:52 PM UTC
Om mani pageme hung. Compassionate thoughts of healing for you and your family.
Kevin D
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 4:12:21 PM UTC
Scott,

I've very sorry that you, your wife and your family have to go through this. It will take time, but please take the tiniest bit of comfort in knowing that eventually, that "feeling" that is now always with you will eventually start to fade.

J
JH
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 4:28:14 PM UTC
I will pray to god, She will undoubtedly beat cancer. Best wishes for your family.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 4:42:55 PM UTC
Scott: Such a painful thing (for both of you) thrown your way. I am at a loss for words. My prayers are with you and your family. Thanks for your courage to post this - it's the kind of thing that can make a difference for someone out there, and may just save someone's life.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 4:49:48 PM UTC
Thanks for sharing this with us. I wish only the best for you and your family. You've got an awesome wife!
m_deluciane
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 5:22:11 PM UTC
I put your family in my daily prayers. I wish all the very best Scott.

Thanks for sharing this.
Chandrasekar
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 5:26:22 PM UTC
Scott, best wishes for your Wife, hoping here the day you buy the t-shirt comes very quickly.
Roman
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 5:30:25 PM UTC
Wow, that's crazy! I can't imagine how hard it is to juggle all of the things you did at Build & have to go through this in your personal life. My thoughts go out to you and I hope Mrs Hanselman stays cancer free for several years :)
Dan Fernandez
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 5:56:36 PM UTC
Our prayers will continue to go out to your family and especially your wife, Scott. We'll look forward to seeing a future post with BOTH of you wearing those t-shirts!!
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 6:02:20 PM UTC
Scott, having experienced Cancer in our family over the last two years, I know exactly what you are going through. It is tough. I wish you and your wife the utmost strength and durability through this. Don't lose site of that "C-FREE" goal.
Patrick Gaul
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 6:06:49 PM UTC
Best wishes for you Scott, and your wife. From a loyal reader in Ecuador.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 6:07:23 PM UTC
Fingers crossed that your wife is going to be ok.

Just to add to your final words on making sure you get regular check ups with a doctor... it's a good idea to regularly visit a dentist as well. My mother had cancer of the mouth which was spotted during a routine check up at the dentist.
brainsiq
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 6:12:07 PM UTC
Scott -

Being a husband of a cancer survivor, I can understand some of what you probably have gone through. The last 5 years have been the toughest I have every been through. My wife has done a great job keeping a nice home and raising 3 kids (I bet just like your wife with your busy schedule). Stay strong and hope your wife stays cancer free.

Woody
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 6:14:12 PM UTC
Scott,

I strongly suggest this book: Anticancer, by David Servan-Schreiber.

It's AMAZING and has excellent advice.

Leo
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 6:23:44 PM UTC
Cancer is very common disease nowadays...
The toxic things are everywhere... Starting from cosmetic through food and electronics (plastic, teflon etc.). We are everyday attacked by this kind of stuff and a lot of healthy people with healthy life style also get cancer because their genes were unable to fight toxic world.

My best friend had cancer.
My dad had cancer.
My other two friends parents had cancer.
My collegue in the work had cancer.
And now my aunt has cancer...

This world is toxic world almost in every piece of material, food and air. Only corportations tell us again and again that everything is fine and under control... They will destroy us because of money for their products.

We can only try to minimize this by buying good natural food, water filtering, using natural cosmetics (like Lavera company from Germany), instead using teflon everywhere exchane it to for example ordinary cast-iron frying pan.

I recommend all of you the book "Slow Death by Rubber Duck: How the Toxic Chemistry of Everyday Life Affects Our Health", by Rick Smith and Bruce Lourie.

GOOD LUCK for your family and especially for your Wife.
I wish you all the best and thank you for this post.

God bless You.
bin
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 6:30:24 PM UTC
Very sorry to hear this news Scott. I am praying for your family. Best wishes on a complete and speedy recovery

Get the t-shirt!

JD
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 6:35:22 PM UTC
Cancer is near and dear to my heart for the same reason: my wife was diagnosed in 2001. We will be praying for you, your wife, and your family.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 6:35:27 PM UTC
Thanks for your story. It has really made me think about how precious life is. All the best to you and your family.
Vic Stuart
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 6:40:39 PM UTC
Best wishes to your family, hope you will never face these kind of unfortunate events again.

teoman
teoman
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 6:41:22 PM UTC
Wishing you and yours all the best and the best of outcomes in this tough time.
Dave Kreskowiak
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 6:47:10 PM UTC
I'm terrified of Cancer and I've been in remission for over 30 years (that's right, thirty), but when I think of my wife and my toddler daughter and if Cancer strikes, please, please, please let it be me and not them.

Scott, you probably thought your skills in connecting with people, your funny sense of humor, and your striving spirit culminated in your day job. Little did you know that was only an audition for the real job of supporting your wife after the nasty medicine is finished and the recovery begins. You are well suited for that.

Brad Rembielak
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 6:59:53 PM UTC
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Scott.

All the best.

Thanks
Roopesh
Roopesh
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 7:06:29 PM UTC
I'm grateful to be able to say my step-dad is a cancer survivor. I am praying for your wife and you.
Jeremy Cook
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 7:36:04 PM UTC
My story http://blog.bonggeek.com/2011/08/c-word.html

My wife is also battling with Cancer. *Our* one year scan is due in 10 days and I'm a wreck right now. I understand what you are going through. This thing changes the whole families life. Even though the little ones seem so agnostic to what is happpening around, they aren't really unaware.

I hope you are taking good care of yourself as well.

Best wishes.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 7:47:17 PM UTC
Scott

We will pray for you, your wife and family.

Rams
Rams
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:00:43 PM UTC
As a survivor, i just want to say a tiny fact about my family and friends. Without them, their support. it would be rather difficult to face the truth. And it is hard to fight something, if you do not acknowledge it.

Life changes after diagnosis, but its only a new beginning. Meanwhile the support she will receive from you and those around, will be her biggest medicine.
So you all take care !
Tadej Fius
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:11:58 PM UTC
Scot, you are a strong family! I wish you and your whole family a lot of strength! All the best to get this through!
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:51:06 PM UTC
Scott, Best of luck to your wife and your entire family.
Sajee
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:52:34 PM UTC
Long time follower/admirer.

First time poster. Your blog post moved me... people are amazing, your wife sounds amazing, best wishes to you both and your boys. Keep up the good work, both at work and at home, you are both inspirational!

Lee
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Lee Keable
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 9:16:52 PM UTC
Scott,

First, my best to you and your wife and your whole family. My thoughts are with you.

Almost a year ago, I was struck down with Guillain-Barre Syndrome. I spent five days in critical care, and it very nearly cost me everything. Only the quick diagnosis saved me from catastrophe. A year later, I am still recovering. My eyes may never be the same.

If I have any advice that may help, it's to understand that in long-term illnesses, it's the caretakers that are often overlooked. It's important to outsource the things that don't matter, if you haven't already: the cleaning, the yard work, the laundry if you can. Remember to take care of yourself during all this. My wife is a superhero, but every extra item on the to-do list was a potential straw that could have broken the camel's back. Don't be afraid to ask friends and family for help. They probably want to help, but don't want to intrude. It makes a world of difference to have just a few things just taken care of.

Again, all the best.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 9:19:10 PM UTC
Best wishes for her quick recovery mate.
wromee
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 9:39:31 PM UTC
Another long time reader (and big fan of relationship hacks) and first time writer - I wish your wife the best possible recovery.
Dom
dom
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:09:41 PM UTC
Scott,

I sincerely WISH the best to you and your wife. Cannot imagine that you have diabetics and now Mo is going with this...You are my inspirational GURU. You simplify coding for me in many ways.

Thank you Scott and wish you the BEST!

Raj Mayank
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:21:11 PM UTC
Buy a "She beat Cancer ->" shirt. She will beat Cancer.

Best wishes.
A. Karimi
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:35:52 PM UTC
As a former cancer survivor (diagnosed at 18 months old - now almost 30 years cancer free), I wish you and your family the best. Your wife is truly an inspiration for others and I pray when you can celebrate the "cancer-free" status.

Godspeed.

Kind Regards,
Andy Katherman
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 11:16:56 PM UTC
Go to google and search "cannabis cancer". It's the cure but it'll take another decade before public opinion catches up with science. The problem is that pharmaceutical companies make billions with their pills and then politicians earn millions from them. So no one really wants the word to spread.
sylvain
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 11:40:13 PM UTC
Wishing you and your family all the best, sorry to hear that you and yours have to go through this. Thanks for raising awareness.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 11:40:32 PM UTC
Prayers for you and your family. Best wishes.
Frank
Tuesday, January 22, 2013 11:47:58 PM UTC
I've never responded to your posts before, but I have seen you speak and talked with you in person. You're a good guy and friendly- even to a chump like me! The least I can do is wish you and your family the best during such a hard time. God bless.
Lee
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 12:13:30 AM UTC
Regular reader, first time writing. Wishing your wife get well soon.
Ash
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 12:43:40 AM UTC
Wishing you and your family all the best.
Ans
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 12:58:10 AM UTC
I saw love.

Wish you and your family all the best!

Weijie
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 1:02:48 AM UTC
Glad to hear all is well now. I wish you and Mo the best.

God bless
Bart
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 1:34:16 AM UTC
I wish the best for ur family scott...will pray for you :)
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 1:35:15 AM UTC
I hope that 2013 is a much, much easier year for all of you full of lots of lists of fun to dos. All the best to you and Mo.

Katie
Katie
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 1:51:28 AM UTC
All the best to you and your family. I eagerly await your post saying your wife's made a full recovery.

Paul
Paul
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 2:13:47 AM UTC
I'm going (have gone) through the same thing with my spouse. Second time this time, but everything still feels new and raw and uncertain. Upcoming PET scan makes me nervous! Yet life keeps happening.

I hope the best for your wife, you, and the kids.
Hillarie Furman
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 2:28:38 AM UTC
Scott, as a fun of your talks, first time to write here. truly hope that your wife gets well soon!

yuanzb
yuanzb
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 2:33:51 AM UTC
Scott,

Wishing you and your family the best... you guys have been through a lot and yet you both seem very optimistic and positive about things.

I have been a close follower of your blogs and I don't think I'll ever stop learning things from you (not just on the professional side).

Arun
Arun Mahendrakar
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 2:54:20 AM UTC
I am so glad Mo has you and you have her. Sening you both the positives energy and love.
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 2:54:35 AM UTC
Good luck. I will get a checkup soon.
Brian K
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 2:59:24 AM UTC
Good luck!
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 3:08:19 AM UTC
Scott, May you all live though this and be free of this Big C. I was happy to read what you wrote, and may you folks never face this again.
Your writing is touching.

Roy.
Roy Osherove
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 3:13:08 AM UTC
Scott,
I feel Very sad to hear this. I wish you all the best for your family and yourself and good luck sir.
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 3:36:49 AM UTC
Hello Scott,

Sorry to hear this,I wish you all the best for your family and your self. I can feel the pain of cancer because my mother has got the same thing and died 6 year ago.

It's good that your wife detected cancer in early stages so she can recover fast. Best of luck for her.

I think we should write about cancer and make people aware. Even I tried to write things in Gujarati which is our mother tongue in Indian language.

Regards,
Jalpesh
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 3:37:13 AM UTC
Scott, your wife will get well very soon. Wish you and your family all the very best and may the happiness stay with you always!
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 3:45:27 AM UTC
Your wife is a great person, so she can recover from this. If the mind is positively interpreting for healing, it will definitely happen. God bless you and your family.

Shiju
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 4:04:46 AM UTC
Scott,

I am very sorry to heard that. I truly hope your wife gets well soon.

One thing I would like to tell you, in my country we have taught that we can live happily together with the cancer but we need to change our daily life. For example, eat only the good food (vegetarian is the best), stay calm, go to exercise (yoga is a good choice).

Good luck
Chatchawan
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 4:19:53 AM UTC
Scott,

I'm so sorry to hear that.

My sister was diagnosed with burkitt's lymphoma about a year and a half ago. I shaved my head and spent a week in the hospital with her while she received the worst of a terrible noxious diet of chemo.

I've never seen someone so close to me so close to the edge...it was heart breaking knowing that I could basically do nothing but be there for her.

But you know what, she survived.

Timothy
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 4:38:19 AM UTC
Like Dan above, I'm a longtime listener but first-time writer. I can't imagine how unbearably hard this is for you both. Like so many here, please be assured of good thoughts and prayers coming your way. Stay positive and keep your chins up.

- Robert
Robert DelRossi
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 4:46:53 AM UTC
Just wanted to send out our very best wishes to Mo, and a strong hope for her to get well soon. All the best to you and the kids as well.

Cheers, Bob
Bob Beauchemin
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 5:03:40 AM UTC
Hi Scott,

Another Seattleite here... I wish the best for you and your family. My prayers are with you.


Cheers,
@ayayalar
Arif Yayalar
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 5:31:32 AM UTC
A longstanding chinese reader here ... I wish the best for you and your family. My prayers are with you too.
bearing09
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 5:39:06 AM UTC
I wish her the best , and I pray that she will be in a very good health very soon .
Rasheed Jamal
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 6:13:48 AM UTC
When I read the title, I couldn't go through the details, I feel very sorry for that, when I start reading I feel how a wonderful wife you have and I believe she will beat it, hoping to her being very well soon.
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 6:15:43 AM UTC
Hi Scott,

Just wanted to say that I wish you and your family all the best. My prayers are with you too.

South African reader.

Jethro Badenhorst
Jethro
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 6:24:12 AM UTC
All the best for you and your family Scott!

- Fırat
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 6:40:28 AM UTC
ngi ufizela inhlanhla
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 7:13:57 AM UTC
Dear Scott,

I wish your family & you good health and happiness for endless time.
Matin
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 7:24:29 AM UTC
Dear Scott,
My father had cancer, but he succumbed to it last year. I can imagine how tough it gets to first know and digest the fact that you are in this battle against such a formidable enemy.
Nice to know that your wife is on her way to beat it completely!!
Wishing her and you all the strength and good health.

-HK
Hiren
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 8:45:24 AM UTC
Best of luck to you and your family, Scott, I wish your wife a speedy recovery !
Dimitar Dimitrov
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 9:27:48 AM UTC
Please pass Mo and the rest of your family my very best wishes.
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 9:57:30 AM UTC
Thanks for sharing the story with us.
I really hope everything goes well.
All the best for this year for wife and your family.
God bless,
Ruben Vilhena
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 10:23:05 AM UTC
Another long-term listner/follower and first time writer/commenter. Thank you for sharing your story and I truly hope your wife is through the worst of it.

All the best to you and your family.

Chris
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 10:48:07 AM UTC
All the best Scott. You and Mo are in my prayers.
jake
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 1:16:30 PM UTC
It can happen to all of us. Please let her know each moment of her life, that you love her. I am a father now, and it would just kill me to know that anything can happen to my wife. But it could as well happen to me. God bless you! In this moments I wish someone could change something, and I hope that someone to be God.
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 2:31:57 PM UTC
Your family is in our prayer Scott. Please give your wife my best wishes.

Thomas
Thomas Wagner
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 2:39:03 PM UTC
Sorry to hear that she has cancer, hope your wife has a speedy recovery.
Prasad
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 3:01:06 PM UTC
Prayers to you and your family. Just wanted to let you know that there are a couple of QIGONG masters visiting from China and doing day long sessions here in Vancouver WA till Friday. I would recommend you at least try them out.
Adnan
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 3:25:46 PM UTC
Wishing your wife a speedy recovery and All the best to you and your family!
Saif
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 3:33:36 PM UTC
I am a slient follower. Now become a first time commentor. Sorry to hear Scott. Our thoughts are with you. May God bless you both.
Venkat
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 3:39:20 PM UTC
What an inspiration you (and your wife) are...here's to a better 2013 and smoother roads ahead.
Dizzyguy
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 3:39:49 PM UTC
May God's grace be with you!
-Sirak from Ethiopia
sirak
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 3:40:51 PM UTC
Thanks for sharing your personal story with us, I hope she's doing well.

DC
David Chen
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 3:53:33 PM UTC
Hi Scott,

Another follower. :) Wishing your wife a speedy recovery. All my prayers are with your family. God Bless.

Regards,
Abhilash
Abhilash Shamsunder
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 4:35:42 PM UTC
Scott,

My thoughts are with you, Mo, and your family. All the best for a full recovery.

Regards,
-Simon
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 4:52:06 PM UTC
Cancer sucks. End of story. Good luck and God bless.
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 4:55:22 PM UTC
Hi Scott,

Thank you for sharing this. I wish you and your family the best.

Sincerely,
Mark Struzinski
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 6:09:48 PM UTC
Scott, you and Mo are awesome. We got news yesterday that my sister-in-law has a "large mass" and we are anxiously waiting to find out what it is. Your story and hers led me to reiterate to my wife that I would do ANYTHING to get her through a hardship like that. Thanks for the reminder about what is really important in life. Brian
Brian
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 6:12:03 PM UTC
Sorry to hear about the Cancer, but good to know it was treatable. Healing thoughts, prayers, energy, <insert your belief here>, coming your way. Here's to a speedy recovery and that it doesn't return.
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 6:20:11 PM UTC
Hi Scott, been a silent follower of your blog for years, but had to comment. Keeping good thoughts for you guys and praying for her speedy recovery!


Ann
Ann
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 6:45:05 PM UTC
Scott: So sorry to see what you and Mo have been through with this and so glad to see that treatments to date have been successful. If strength and determination mean anything we know she'll beat this. I'm praying for Mo and for your family.
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 7:50:45 PM UTC
Praying for your wife and family.
Jackie Davis
Wednesday, January 23, 2013 11:39:21 PM UTC
Wishing you all, all the best. I hope 2013 is a good year for you both.
Colin
Thursday, January 24, 2013 12:57:10 AM UTC
We don't know each other but reading this news made me feel like someone in my family was going through this. Sad, but I am glad that Mo is doing well. Your family will be in my prayers.
Balaji
Thursday, January 24, 2013 2:50:38 AM UTC

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oneAmongOther
Thursday, January 24, 2013 4:10:54 AM UTC
Hi Scott,

I couldn't keep myself from writing a short comment and wish your dear wife a prompt recovery. Indeed she is a hero of our days. As someone who went through this process I understand how it is difficult to keep up and cope with the sickness, how it is a combat of every day to stand and don't fall. I'm reading you for a while now and I feel somewhat connected to you and your life. Thank you for sharing and letting us know about the hard times you are going through. All my prayers are with your family,

M/
Mohammad
Thursday, January 24, 2013 7:29:34 AM UTC
Wish the best for you and your family. God Bless.
Yavor
Thursday, January 24, 2013 7:58:23 AM UTC
Scott,

All the best for you and your wife. I really hope and pray the cancer is gone.

God Bless
Vince
Vince
Thursday, January 24, 2013 9:29:03 AM UTC
I've been a long time follower of your work. Hope that five years from now you post a happy picture with all your family wearing tshirts that mock the C :-)
Milad
Thursday, January 24, 2013 9:30:17 AM UTC
Hi Scott! Thanks for sharing this with us. I really hope your wife gets better soon.

Supporting research is important. Hopefully they can find a final bug fix for this aweful thing in our source code once and for all. So noone has to go through this ever again.

My thoughts goes out to you and your family.

Regards,
Johan
Johan
Thursday, January 24, 2013 9:54:15 AM UTC
Wish you luck and strength to recover from this hard times...wants to see you both in those T-shirts :)
Shrikant N
Thursday, January 24, 2013 10:12:53 AM UTC
Scott, so sorry to hear about this. Best of luck with the rest of the check ups. You always impress me by being such a wonderful person in life, work, family - it all.
Lisa Feigenbaum
Thursday, January 24, 2013 12:59:59 PM UTC
Hi Scott,

My best wishes and prayers with you. Wish your wife a speedy recovery.

Regards,
Ashish
ashish
Thursday, January 24, 2013 3:16:59 PM UTC
Scott,
Our thoughts and prayers are with Mo and you. My family has had their share of C and it's no fun. To see how well she handles it is surely an inspiration. Watching the videos again where you present at BUILD, you do a great job of hiding what is definitely foremost on your mind.

Thanks for all that you do for our community! Your sense of humor, wit and technical insight makes programming even more of a joy.

Bill
Bill Martin
Thursday, January 24, 2013 3:27:24 PM UTC
Scott - I was saddened to hear the news. My wife and I went through a similar situation in 2011/12. Even though she did not have chemo, the surgery to remove the cancer and subsequent surgeries for reconstruction were hard on her, and the family.

The bright side is she is still cancer free and the prognosis looks good. I am sure you and Mo will have similar success in beating the disease.

Best wishes - Jay Turpin

Jay Turpin
Thursday, January 24, 2013 3:49:43 PM UTC
Sorry to hear this news. Sending good thoughts and prayers out for you and your family. Hang in there!
Gregg
Thursday, January 24, 2013 5:43:13 PM UTC
Best of luck and wishes -- get well soon!
Thursday, January 24, 2013 5:54:23 PM UTC
My wife is 5-year breast cancer free. Thankful for every day. Many things that we used to think were important seem petty after a cancer diagnosis. Wishing you and your wife the best. Peace.
Thursday, January 24, 2013 7:55:22 PM UTC
Best of luck! Your family is in our thoughts.
Klyde Nieb
Thursday, January 24, 2013 8:33:49 PM UTC
Sincerely, wishing you and your family the best things and hope you all have a very fulfilling long life. At this point, I would also like to acknowledge that you have made my world so much better and have given me so much that I can never hope to match that.
DoesNotMatter
Thursday, January 24, 2013 9:49:45 PM UTC
Scott,

I am a longtime follower of your blog and i know how you fell, my wife lost her battle with lung cancer this past weekend after fight valiantly for 2 years..

yes all please ensure you get your regular checkups!!!
Bill Ansley
Thursday, January 24, 2013 10:03:25 PM UTC
Scott, I've been a quiet, long-time lurker/podcast listener. I've been where you describe in this post. The blindside factor is simply unbelievable. My wife was diagnosed with cancer almost 5 years ago. We are in the home stretch for the 'cancer-free' tag. The support of friends and family have been a great blessing to our family. I look forward to you family being able to look back and see the blessings as well in five years.

Scott
Scott Pascoe
Thursday, January 24, 2013 10:08:35 PM UTC
God bless...you are in our prayers.
Dickson
Thursday, January 24, 2013 11:26:51 PM UTC
my thoughts and prayers are with you, folks
george
Thursday, January 24, 2013 11:49:46 PM UTC
Wow. I know EXACTLY what you are going through Scott. My wife recently went in for a scheduled checkup following the recent birth of our 3rd child and the Dr found a few small cancer lesions on her cervix.

That was December 13 2012.

Cone Biopsy on the 17th, the day before my wife's 32nd birthday.
Found out the full extent on the 24th December
Total Hysterectomy on the 14th Jan, where the bladder was found to be perforated. She is currently resting, with a catheter due to come out at the start of February.

I hope your wife makes a complete recovery!
Friday, January 25, 2013 12:42:39 AM UTC
Thank you for sharing Scott... Good luck to you and your wife... Your ability to succeed in spite of the problems that life throws at you (Diabetes / Cancer), as well as your ability to document and share inspire me...

Rock on Scott


Eric Z.
Eric Ziko
Friday, January 25, 2013 1:11:59 AM UTC
Damn, I'm so sorry to here about your wife. Look on the bright side, medical tech is advancing at an amazing pace. Some of the recent developments are nothing short of breathtaking!

Stay strong, you both can beat it.
Gareth
Friday, January 25, 2013 1:17:00 AM UTC
Scott, you and your wife's bravery and strength come through in this post, and I appreciate you sharing it with us.

You'll all be in my prayers, and if there is anything we can do to help, just say the word.
Saturday, January 26, 2013 2:22:50 AM UTC
Scott, so happy to hear of your wife's turn for the better. I appreciate you posting the link to troyhowellcancerfund.com as well. They are close personal friends of mine and your mention of it has driven many great people with big hearts to their site.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and look forward to that blogpost in the not to distance future when you proclaim that she beat it. Even more, I love your hopes and join you in looking forward to advances in medicine so that we can refer to cancer with a little "C". In some way, this relentless disease has impacted us all with friends, family and loved ones. Lets hope for a cure so future generations won't be impacted. Thank you again for your good heart and contributions to the technical community at large!

Kevin
Saturday, January 26, 2013 5:32:54 AM UTC
Lifting her up in prayer. Hopefully these verses will serve you as they have me...

Matthew 11:28: "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest."

Philipians 4:6-7: "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
John
Saturday, January 26, 2013 11:02:41 PM UTC
Just be optimistic! I know you can!
Pol
Sunday, January 27, 2013 5:34:25 PM UTC
Respect for doing what you do in spite of this.
Respect for your wife who has a to-do list of everyday stuff while battling Cancer.

Best wishes, hope she kicks C right in the crotch.
Aniket
Monday, January 28, 2013 6:26:56 AM UTC
You and your wife have a really really positive outlook towards life. I hope she gets well really soon.
A long time reader of your blog!
Monday, January 28, 2013 11:06:26 AM UTC
Thank your for sharing such a personal matter. I admire your courage and openness and your wife's courage, strength and grace in this predicament. I'm sure the love that you and your wife have for one another and your family will be the bond that can't be defeated by this cancer. I hope and pray that she will make it thru and be well again.
My best wishes, thoughts and prayers for you and your family.
Monday, January 28, 2013 1:33:38 PM UTC

Definitely good advice that has (literally) saved several friends and relatives.

Wishing your wife (and you) all the best!

-- Ian
Ian
Monday, January 28, 2013 2:21:16 PM UTC
Scott,

I wish you and youre family all the blessings and love to overcome this evil disease!

Regards,
Steve
Steve C.J. Rokette
Monday, January 28, 2013 4:58:06 PM UTC
Incredible woman.

I wish your family all the best.
Wednesday, January 30, 2013 5:25:24 PM UTC
I'm just focus in a great year for your wife and family, plenty of healing alternatives, energy and fun moments....



Vanesa
Wednesday, January 30, 2013 7:00:30 PM UTC
This post really hit home for me, having just lost my dad to cancer in August. I'm very glad to hear of Mo's progress so far. I've always found your blog to be helpful and inspiring in the technical realm and just as much on the personal side as well. Best wishes for a cancer-free future!
Brian Baker
Wednesday, January 30, 2013 9:08:09 PM UTC
Hi Scott,

WOW! This came as a shock to me! Although I have never met your wife but I have listened to her on your podcast. Your wife reminds me of my aunt who is extremely intelligent and witty.

I will pray for her continuous health and fast recovery!
Mohammad Azam
Thursday, January 31, 2013 5:31:58 PM UTC
My sister has C - one of the nasty ones (guess they all are nasty) - but I mean lower success rates. While researching treatment, it kind of reminds me of the posts you had with Diabetes. Seems like so much could have been done already with good minds, trials, tracking. Even meta data analysis - perhaps a site where everyone checks in and says what works(ed) for them - even with the flyer(bad) data entry we could get some indication of direction. Double blind testing is too expensive and can only really do one variable. Kind of like the old Battleship game with one torpedo at a time - but a battle field in n dimensions.

Perhaps a site like StackOverflow, where people up vote what works for them. True, that not all solutions work on all people and all C types, but having options that may actually -work- for some...

Anyone up for a site like this?

Chemo and radiation should be treatments of last resort but are currently first - got to find something better.

Back to the diabetes similarity - trying to monitor progress in C is difficult. Do a treatment, wait 6 weeks, do a scan (ultrasound, PET, etc.). Need a good test, so that 'progress' can be determined.

Finally, IMHO, top anti-cancer items: D3, IP-6, Selenium (ref. Dr.OZ)
Best wishes and prayers for you and your family.
RJ
Friday, February 01, 2013 11:43:16 AM UTC
Scott, Cancer is beatable. I was diagnosed with throat cancer 2.5 years ago (age of 61). I actually had problems swallowing. It felt like there was a fish bone lodged in there. Well the operation would have been a real bitch with a lot of possible everlasting side effects. So the doctor recommended radiation therapy. 6 weeks and 33 treatment later the tumor was gone. And I've been OK ever since. The 1st year I went for a checkup once a month, the second year, every 3 months. Now once in four months. It takes 5 years before I can get the all clear from the doc.

For the record I didn't smoke but I did drink a lot and hung out in smokey bars. but I stopped drinking when my radiation treatments started.

I'm really glad your wife is kickin' the Big C's butt too.
Dan Huffman
Friday, February 01, 2013 11:58:02 AM UTC
Damn...

All the best for your whole family!

Markus
Friday, February 01, 2013 2:34:54 PM UTC
God bless you and keep your wife, you and all your beloved saved.
Victor A. Roa
Friday, February 01, 2013 3:06:08 PM UTC
I wish your family all the best...
Biju
Friday, February 01, 2013 3:22:11 PM UTC
Scott,

Thoughts and prayers are with you, Mo, and your family. I have had a few family members fight cancer as of late. I know it is beatable!!

Gif
Gifford Haynes
Friday, February 01, 2013 8:57:21 PM UTC
All the best to yr family
Siphiwe Gwebu
Friday, February 01, 2013 9:46:53 PM UTC
RJ - Actually, a Cancer StackOverflow is a great idea. Maybe start one at http://area51.stackexchange.com?
Friday, February 01, 2013 9:48:08 PM UTC
Wish your wife and you all the very best for 2013 and I pray you don't have to deal with cancer ever again.

I do hope that computer science, with all the data and analysis capabilities we have developed and medicine come together and find a cure soon.

Preets
Friday, February 01, 2013 10:34:08 PM UTC
Eleven years ago today, I lost my mom to cancer. She opted not to share her struggles with her two sons, I can only assume to save us from the pain. 25 hours after we found out, she was gone. Guess what? Still hurts today, though much less.

Your wife is very fortunate to have you by her side through her journey, and I have no doubt it will be one filled with love, laughs, and technology. I wish the two of you and your kids a very happy recovery and a very long remission.

Sincerely,
Neil Truick
Friday, February 01, 2013 11:37:59 PM UTC
Hi Scott, you and your wife are wonderful human beings and I do wish you both continued help. It was also very good of you to use this article as a reminder to others to get regular checkups early. Beating Cancer is really about catching it ^early^. Thanks and God bless you and your family, and a speedy recovery to your wife!
Efosa Oyegun
Saturday, February 02, 2013 12:23:10 AM UTC
I just read this, and wow. I'm really sorry to hear it. I'm rooting for her, I'm adding you both to my prayers. Seriously, it's not just a figure of speech.
Lance Fisher
Saturday, February 02, 2013 9:38:56 AM UTC
God Bless and Congrats to you and your family ...

Edward Beckett
Saturday, February 02, 2013 1:25:36 PM UTC
I am also one of those that read your blog (and learn from it) quite often, but rarely if ever dropped a comment.

I am very sorry to hear that your wife has been diagnosed with cancer. I wish her a speedy recovery. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in these difficult times.

Zen
Shkelzen Saraqini
Saturday, February 02, 2013 6:25:43 PM UTC
Thanks for sharing. It reminds us all of what really is matters, how precious life and family are. God bless.

Irvin Waldman
Irvin Waldman
Sunday, February 03, 2013 5:24:09 AM UTC
254 adorable people is supporting and thinking of you and your family.
Scott, Don't worry, She will stand on her knees soon strongly and play the role of devoted mother and lovely wife again as you've always expected.
Wish you the best for you and your strong wife.
Ehsan
Monday, February 04, 2013 12:20:25 AM UTC
We as developers and technologist do not operate in a vacuum. Life happens and we often find ourselves balancing a double life of sorts - one of struggle and one of success. One private, one public.

It must have been terrifying not knowing how things would turn out and stressful for you, Mo and the family to deal with.

Thank you for being transparent about this deeply personal issue of family health. You've been an inspiration to me to make my voice heard and I'm glad we connected via the Interwebz.

I'm definitely looking forward to listening to the podcast of you and Mp sharing your thoughts and feelings on the journey. Here's rooting for you all that the word "cancer" will be a past tense going forward!

Adria Richards
Monday, February 04, 2013 10:04:35 AM UTC
Although I have followed your blog, and podcast for quite a while, and although a geek, the ones with Mo are probably the ones I liked most. And I also got my wife to listen to them.

So when I have seen this (before listening) my first reaction was "this sucks! it's not fair!"

And while listening, I got to think about my wife, my 3 years old, work vs. family, all that stuff that we always ignore.

I wish Mo and you all the best in the world, to beat this and be there together, for your kids, and for each other, for a long-long-long time.

Mihai

Mihai
Tuesday, February 05, 2013 7:09:09 AM UTC
Very sad to hear this. Hope everything works out fine and your wife gets better. God be with you. Stay strong
Soni
Tuesday, February 05, 2013 1:18:58 PM UTC
Hope never hear again of someone has this bad thing, wish you and your family good health. I hope Preets hope of find the cure be succesful.

Many regards
Stavros
Stavros
Tuesday, February 05, 2013 1:25:02 PM UTC
Like many others who have already written, I am a long-time reader. This post moved me to leave a comment for the first time. I appreciate your healthy attitude about so many topics. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife. May you continue to find the physical and emotional strength to get through this.

Josh
Jerusalem, Israel
Josh Weisman
Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:22:39 AM UTC
Hi Scott,

Thanks a lot for sharing the valuable and inspiring moments. It really touched me as reminded me the moment I was told my dad had cancer 12 years ago. I was watching desperately how Cancer took him bit by bit every hour.

And yes, well said: early diagnose, early diagnose, early diagnose,....

I deeply wish all the best for you guys and so glad she beat the cancer.

Martin - Sydney (Australia)
Martin
Wednesday, February 13, 2013 9:38:19 PM UTC
Scott,

I've been away from your site for a long (too long) while now... And to come back and find this out...

I truly hope all is well with Mo and this is beat forever.

-John
John Baughman
Sunday, February 17, 2013 10:24:34 PM UTC
*hugs*
Wednesday, February 20, 2013 5:51:42 PM UTC
I've not read your blog for a while Scott and my return to it was this page. I do hope the Cancer is beaten. Your wife does sound like a remarkable woman and it's good that she has a husband who recognises and appreciates that. Best wishes, love and hope to you all.
Glenn Halstead
Thursday, February 21, 2013 8:56:31 PM UTC
Long time reader, first time writer....I wish you and Mo the best. Been away a while but just reading about this saddened me. Stay strong and hopefully you guys will overcome this.

MattB
Matt B
Friday, February 22, 2013 12:12:44 AM UTC
I'm very sorry to hear about Mo and yours experience Scott. Thank you for sharing it with us. I too was extremely fond of hearing Mo's input on things and geek tips for relationships was one of my favourites. I've just signed up for the book.

Take care
Thursday, February 28, 2013 10:59:02 AM UTC
I hope you and your wife are wearing that T-shirts. Our prayers are with Mo and you.


Niks
Niks
Thursday, March 21, 2013 10:34:22 PM UTC
Hi Scott, Hi Mo,
sorry to hear the news about Mo.
I'm happy to know you guys successfully went through that and I will keep you in my prayers.
Thanks for reminding us to go check routine checkups.
Go, Mo, Go.
Remain strong.
Friday, April 05, 2013 10:07:22 PM UTC
Hi Scott,

Follower from South Africa here...I look up to you as one of the best bloggers of our time and have started a blog of my own :). My Mom was diagnosed with Cancer and so was my Father-in-Law so I know how it can be. They are still fighting the fight. I wish you and your wife a long and happy future together. You are both in my prayers.

I'm a natural health "freek" so if you need any extra advice just send me an email and I will share what I know.

Love,
Steve
Friday, May 03, 2013 2:00:48 PM UTC
Scott thanks a ton for sharing this with the community. My prayers are with you and your family and you have been a great inspiration for me as always. You beat the C.

God bless you and family.
Mitul
Mitul Suthar
Monday, June 24, 2013 7:28:25 AM UTC
Hi Scott, I've been a silent reader of your blog for very long time. I can totally relate to this situation since I myself was diagnosed with Cancer in May last year. I understand that It must be so frustrating and overwhelming to deal with it. Now it's all in the past and you guys can talk about it as an adventure. All the best to you and your family.
Sunday, July 07, 2013 9:33:09 AM UTC
Scott and family, all the best. you are awesome people.
Tuesday, July 23, 2013 3:38:45 PM UTC
Scott,

I just hit this page accidentally. I was doing a Google search with Bing to give some more of my European/Stockholm buddies links to your good stuff and this link stuck out. I recently learned that 2 of my close friends are dealing with cancer, one of them was my former manager here. (He was the life of the entire company prior to leaving for new adventures.) The other is my barber. That said, I can't come close to imagining what you and your family are dealing with. My prayers go out to you and your wife. You are both terrific people and I wish you all the best!
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